Self Help
“Mind” – the entity that fears insecurity. That always looks for security, perpetuating the survival. That complicates everything, from studies to career to relationship to money. That deludes rope to a snake, and snake to a rope. Mind, the sole reason for existence, the protector of the body; that generates adrenalin in times of peril, to make us more alert; that generates serotonin for happiness, to give us enthusiasm and smiles; that generates gastrin for digestion, to digest food at the right time, and not secrete acids at the wrong times as to digesting our own stomach; that generates hormones to sustain creation, the hormones that make us look for a partner, that gives necessary bodily growth at appropriate times, not too fast, not too slow; and bolster the elixir of life that happens non-stop every moment – the breath.
My manager always asks me, “Did you write your book about healthy and happy living yet?”. I feel bad, I don’t know whether he is really expecting me to write something and read it. I want to tell him, there is no 200-page formula for happy living. You just have to give time to yourself. If we work day-in-day-out answering client calls, thinking about the project, we can forget about happiness. Our mind dreads insecurity. It doesn’t want to be stay put. It wants to be occupied with something or the other every second, even in sleep, in the form of dreams. But you got to spend time with yourself every day for some time. That’s it. There are a million books, a potpourri of a million different concepts. Have our lives gone so bad as to read books on how to live? There are books on how to win friends! How can we “win” friends? How many of those friends “won” come with us for life? Friends are not “won”, they happen, they bloom like spring flowers filling our life with their fragrance. There is no “winning” people. The trick of self-help books is very simple – weave concepts around the mind’s insecurity and give seemingly plausible solutions! Are all human beings alike as to a single solution working for everyone? No, absolutely not. All of us are unique. Each of us has million unique incidents imprinted in our memories that chiseled us to who we are, what we are, and where we are now. There’s no one-stop-shop that can tell us what we should do, or how we should live unless we discover it ourselves.
No self-help book will help unless the help comes from within.
